A Million Years Ago

I haven’t felt very inspired to write recently. I’ve been focused on spending time with my partner and family, and I started a new job. I haven’t been feeling great, and when I feel like that, it benefits me to spend time around my close loved ones. But it’s so difficult that the person IContinue reading “A Million Years Ago”

Emma’s Story

I recently invited my instagram followers to share their grief experiences/stories. Here is Emma’s account of how she lost her Mum, Karen, in December 2019. I lost my Mum last December to a butterfly glioblastoma. It’s a tumour that grows from the centre of the brain outwards, and looks like it grows within the structureContinue reading “Emma’s Story”

What have you learnt from the loss of a loved one?

A couple of weeks ago, Chelsie from Bereavedat22 tagged me in a post headed with the above question. It got me thinking about what I have learnt, and how I can grow and share to support others. Over the next few posts, I’m going to focus on the three main things that I’ve learnt alongContinue reading “What have you learnt from the loss of a loved one?”

Dear 10-year-old Rosie

I’m writing to you at age 26, which might sound old, but life is just beginning for you. You have a great job, you went to university (and got two degrees!), you have an adorable cat called Ian and an amazingly supportive boyfriend called Sam. There are a few things I’d love you to knowContinue reading “Dear 10-year-old Rosie”

Mum’s cancer diagnosis

It’s February 2015, it’s bloody cold outside, and Mum and I are going shopping. Mum had a routine mammogram booked in for that morning, so en route to town, we swung by the NHS screening van that sat in big Tesco’s car park, she got her boobies out, squished ‘em into the machine, and thenContinue reading “Mum’s cancer diagnosis”

Birthdays

On the drive home from work the other day, UB40’s Kingston Town came on the radio. It was the day before my birthday and that song is one of those songs that instantly reminds me of Mum. It hit me really hard and made me emotional. On my birthday this year, Sam and I wentContinue reading “Birthdays”

What gets lost in loss?

Before loss, I was coming towards a pretty secure understanding of my identity. As a person, woman, daughter, partner, sister, friend, colleague. Grief has changed, warped, deconstructed and rebuilt my sense of identity and self. Your identity changes when you’ve had a serious bereavement. Loss caused me to have a wide range of complex emotionsContinue reading “What gets lost in loss?”

How to deal with people who weren’t there for you

Someone recently asked how to respond to or deal with people who weren’t there for you after your bereavement. Firstly, it sucks when you’re feeling unsupported from those who should be there for you at such a difficult time. Something to remember is that people might avoid situations like ours because they are afraid. They’reContinue reading “How to deal with people who weren’t there for you”

Dear Mum

Mum, I miss you more than I thought I would be able to feel anything. Every day something reminds me of you and I wish more than anything that I could hold your hand and hear your voice again. I am so sorry that whilst you were ill, I felt so angry all the time.Continue reading “Dear Mum”

Mum’s cancer journey

Mum was diagnosed with cancer on the 9th December 2016. The diagnosis came after she found a lump in her left breast (whilst she was sat on the toilet), and had a month of tests, scans and biopsies. She went into her diagnosis and treatment with positivity and resilience. That year, we had a lovelyContinue reading “Mum’s cancer journey”