Five Things I’ve Learnt so far – Part 2

Lesson number two – it is shocking how rapidly the body can change and deteriorate. At the start of treatment, everything was positive for Mum. The treatment plan made sense, the likely success rate was high, and Mum’s fatigue had started to dissipate. She’d had her diagnosis and treatment plan, so she wasn’t constantly worriedContinue reading “Five Things I’ve Learnt so far – Part 2”

Self Comfort and Care

There are things that bring me comfort and remind me of my Mum in sad times. When I’m having a bad day (or a good one), I can let myself listen, read, experience, and share these things that help me feel better. Listening to music that reminds me of her. I made a playlist onContinue reading “Self Comfort and Care”

#socialdistancing

The idea of social distancing is to distance yourself from those around you to lessen the chance of spreading this awful virus. It is there to protect one another and slow the infection rate, and therefore take some burden off the shoulders of all NHS staff, emergency service workers and carers. As I mentioned inContinue reading “#socialdistancing”

The Weight of it All

Something I want to address is the weight that is placed on you through seeing someone you love die. For me it was a constant state of ambivalence throughout treatment, illness, and death. When my Mum was diagnosed with cancer, I didn’t cry. I can’t remember feeling anything at all at the moment she toldContinue reading “The Weight of it All”

My Tribute for Mum

This is the tribute I wrote to be read out at Mum’s funeral. I asked one of my Mum’s best friends to read it and I am so grateful for her doing so, I couldn’t imagine anyone else having done it. “The last year of all our lives has been an extremely difficult one, butContinue reading “My Tribute for Mum”

Arranging Mum’s Funeral

Maybe about a week before Mum died, I messaged my friend Sophie whose Mum works as a funeral director. I asked Sophie if I could come round hers at some point and chat to her Mum about what to expect when planning a funeral, the “plans”, the average costs etc. At this point, Sophie andContinue reading “Arranging Mum’s Funeral”

The Aftermath of Mum’s Death

Mum passed away at 3pm, on the morning of her death, we had been contacting close family and friends to alert them of the situation. Mum’s brother and my two cousins were hard to get hold of that day – but we eventually did get hold of them and they arrived to us around 4pm.Continue reading “The Aftermath of Mum’s Death”