Mum’s cancer journey

Mum was diagnosed with cancer on the 9th December 2016. The diagnosis came after she found a lump in her left breast (whilst she was sat on the toilet), and had a month of tests, scans and biopsies. She went into her diagnosis and treatment with positivity and resilience. That year, we had a lovelyContinue reading “Mum’s cancer journey”

Exercise

The year that Mum died, I decided I was going to run Cancer Research UK’s Race for Life (5K) in her honour. She died in March and the Race for Life was booked in for 10th June. By the time I’d set my heart on doing the race, I had ten weeks to train myselfContinue reading “Exercise”

Missed Opportunities

Lockdown restrictions for Covid-19 have cancelled all public events and holiday travel. I have found it difficult to be positive about the changes in our trajectory. Let’s start at the beginning; I’m a bridesmaid for my friend who was due to be getting married earlier this year. Firstly, her hen do was cancelled. We wereContinue reading “Missed Opportunities”

After Life : Season 1 Review

After Life is a black humour sitcom series streaming on Netflix. It was created, written, produced and directed by Ricky Gervais. He also plays the lead character, Tony. It follows Tony’s life and journey with grief after the premature death of his wife, Lisa. Series one premiered on 8th March 2019. There are regular mentionsContinue reading “After Life : Season 1 Review”

Five Things I’ve Learnt so far – Part 5

Lesson number 5 – Grief is unpredictable. Grief. It’s a tricky business, isn’t it? It can be confusing, complex, lonely, overwhelming. It also happens in a different way for everybody. In the case of terminal illness, grief could start when your loved one/significant person is going through the process of dying. Retrospectively, I felt griefContinue reading “Five Things I’ve Learnt so far – Part 5”

Five Things I’ve Learnt so far – Part 3

Lesson number three – It’s not like the movies. By that, I mean that the way that death and dying is depicted in the media, TV and films is far from reality (from what I’ve seen, anyway). A bit of background on my Mum’s diagnosis – she had breast cancer, six rounds of chemo andContinue reading “Five Things I’ve Learnt so far – Part 3”

Five Things I’ve Learnt so far – Part 2

Lesson number two – it is shocking how rapidly the body can change and deteriorate. At the start of treatment, everything was positive for Mum. The treatment plan made sense, the likely success rate was high, and Mum’s fatigue had started to dissipate. She’d had her diagnosis and treatment plan, so she wasn’t constantly worriedContinue reading “Five Things I’ve Learnt so far – Part 2”

Five Things I’ve Learnt so far – Part 1

Part 1 of a little series of posts about what I’ve learnt throughout my journey with Mum’s cancer, her death, and my grief. Lesson number one – Cancer is confusing and unfair. Mum’s diagnosis wasn’t straightforward. She was diagnosed in December 2016. February 2015, she’d had a routine mammogram which picked up a grey mass/areaContinue reading “Five Things I’ve Learnt so far – Part 1”

#socialdistancing

The idea of social distancing is to distance yourself from those around you to lessen the chance of spreading this awful virus. It is there to protect one another and slow the infection rate, and therefore take some burden off the shoulders of all NHS staff, emergency service workers and carers. As I mentioned inContinue reading “#socialdistancing”

Mother’s Day

Mum died eight days before Mother’s Day 2018. Today is my third Mother’s Day without her. I know there are people who have lost their mums and view Mother’s Day with apprehension or dread. For me, it’s turned into a day that just happens. I’m no more or less sad today, it’s another day thatContinue reading “Mother’s Day”