The Weight of it All

Something I want to address is the weight that is placed on you through seeing someone you love die. For me it was a constant state of ambivalence throughout treatment, illness, and death. When my Mum was diagnosed with cancer, I didn’t cry. I can’t remember feeling anything at all at the moment she toldContinue reading “The Weight of it All”

Being Motherless

Sorry I’ve been less active the past few days, I’ve had job interviews, visited family, and it’s been Sam’s birthday too! I wanted to write something about being and feeling motherless, especially with Mothers’ Day on the horizon. Mothers’ Day was just eight days after my Mum passed away and the day after Sam’s birthdayContinue reading “Being Motherless”

Mum’s Final Words

This is what Mum wrote as her final words to be read at her funeral. Today marks two years from the day she died. “Mum – because of you, I became the woman I was, and I thank you from the bottom of my heart for this. Because of you I have the most wonderfulContinue reading “Mum’s Final Words”

James’ Tribute

Here is James’ tribute written for Mum “There isn’t really much left to say about Mum. Both Grandma and Rosie’s tributes describe her warmth and loving nature perfectly. I am so lucky to still have three strong, intelligent and fiery women to guide me through life. Mum inherited Grandma’s wicked sense of humour, her hardworkingContinue reading “James’ Tribute”

My Tribute for Mum

This is the tribute I wrote to be read out at Mum’s funeral. I asked one of my Mum’s best friends to read it and I am so grateful for her doing so, I couldn’t imagine anyone else having done it. “The last year of all our lives has been an extremely difficult one, butContinue reading “My Tribute for Mum”

Arranging Mum’s Funeral

Maybe about a week before Mum died, I messaged my friend Sophie whose Mum works as a funeral director. I asked Sophie if I could come round hers at some point and chat to her Mum about what to expect when planning a funeral, the “plans”, the average costs etc. At this point, Sophie andContinue reading “Arranging Mum’s Funeral”

Coping with and Reacting to Someone Else’s Grief

I can’t tell you the amount of cards I got after my Mum died, I can’t tell you who they’re from or what they said – but I can tell you that a two weeks after my Mum died, my friends persuaded me to go out for St Patrick’s Day. I had such a greatContinue reading “Coping with and Reacting to Someone Else’s Grief”

The Aftermath of Mum’s Death

Mum passed away at 3pm, on the morning of her death, we had been contacting close family and friends to alert them of the situation. Mum’s brother and my two cousins were hard to get hold of that day – but we eventually did get hold of them and they arrived to us around 4pm.Continue reading “The Aftermath of Mum’s Death”

She’s Dying – Part 4

The last part of this series of posts detailing Mum’s death – this may be slightly graphic for some readers. At one point in the morning, Mum started dribbling so I grabbed a tissue and went to wipe her face. Now, I had worked with children for 7 years at this point (nearly nine today),Continue reading “She’s Dying – Part 4”

She’s Dying (Part 3)

In this post I am going to describe and explain the events that led up to and include Mum’s death. Mum died at 3pm on Saturday 3rd March 2018. Mum was deteriorating and needed care all day. That care came in the form of my Mum’s partner and I, and the thrice daily visits fromContinue reading “She’s Dying (Part 3)”